Big Beautiful women have always been intriguing to me,personally I've found that a woman of size to be erotic, enticing, exciting, charming, romantic and extroverted. Black men seem to have an Ego defect when it comes to their Big Black Beautiful women, and i've explored this issue at length this fixation that men have on the size 8-10 woman has left an enormant amount of larger women waiting in the dating force. These women are treated with no respect and little or no attention.

Black men look at a woman as a trophy to parade around his peers, to boost his ego, leaving some larger women forlorned and rejected. Big Beautiful Black women are abounded with all the same qualities that most men say they want in a life companion. Intelligence, honesty, loyality, social grace, emotion, passion, and independence.They are goal orientated and romantic. When black men find all these factor in a woman and she's a size 16 or larger, they run like rabbits in a lions den. The problem as I see it goes back to the trophy syndrome.

If the woman doesn't meet the Tyra Banks model, then we (black men) are afraid that our peers will think of us as less than the macho stud that we picture ourselves. We're stuck on the physical aspect of the package and never examine the contents. I'm sure if you open the gift in front of you, you'll find a warm, caring, smart, kind, considerate, and loving person who wants exactly what size 8 wants with a larger capacity to love and be loved.

I've talked to hundreds of Black men in social settings with black women of all shades and sizes, to my regret and I might add my humiliation, black women of size are the group that black males avoid like they have an incurable communicable disease or they give such flimsy excuses, "She's got a pretty face" and to my personal pain and disgust "She's got a marvelous personality", but when it comes to interaction that might lead to a second meeting or a DATE, all bets are off. I'm appalled at brothers that shun and ignore a beautiful sister that doesn't fit his weight category.

These women are hurt and angry and more important make up a large portion of our population. These same women hold higher degrees of education, are entrepreneurs, involved in all areas of government, run the top level of some of Americas largest corporations and teach our children. These same women serve in every aspect of our daily lives, working side by side with you single brothers, you trust their opinions, call on their expertise, ask their advice about your ill fated pathetic social life but as soon as Friday night rolls around they are the last person you'd call for a dinner date or ask out for a drink!

Why should theses jewels feel like social outcast? When I pose this question to a group of plus-size women the number one answer was "I'm not the typical size 10 that Black men look for and it his loss". I give that answer a rousing ovation and fellows you are BIG losers, the very qualifications you seek in size 8-10 are in front of you and in some cases work beside you. You're blinded by society's look at the woman on your arm, afraid to be judged by the female company you keep. When you're ready for a real committed life long relationship and all the size 10s are taken, do you become lonely old men or will you wise up and start looking into the souls of all women? There is an enormous population of larger women who are containers of love, devotion, communication,with senses of humor, style and a brand of happiness the size of Texas.

Ego blinded Black men look around, Big Beautiful Black women are slowly and methodically emerging from "LANE BRYANTS" closet and that "PRETTY AND PLUMP" sister is not to be ignored, because "TODAY'S WOMAN" comes in "SIZES UNLIMITED" and Black men have to face the fact, this classy group of prominent Black women are standing up to be seen (and man are they looking good) and heard.

NO more back room meetings, or after hour dates, never again the cheap cafes, dates in dark out the way places. "We are the real Black women, and Black men will have to accept us or lose us." I agree, and am your ardent fan, my beautiful Black queens, shed the dead weight let the Black males who ignored you fall under your pedicured feet. Remember ladies the size 10 he's chasing today is a "MACY'S WOMAN" tomorrow. Guy's save a step,take a good look around, consider the feelings of a woman you've avoided because of her weight. Have lunch,a walk, share more than job related conversation . I think you'll find that these larger women have a lot to offer, the size of their souls.

Maybe I shouldn't have exposed this issue. If brothers do wise up, that means that to a guy like me the dating pool becomes a puddle. My loss is your gain fellows.